tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1700497848445945433.post6345128039025318228..comments2019-08-17T09:12:02.190-07:00Comments on A Mother's Love: Time Line of GriefKristahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08236382213262124148noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1700497848445945433.post-46558854465638758512012-09-20T11:56:32.392-07:002012-09-20T11:56:32.392-07:00Thank you Emily. Thank you Emily. Kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08236382213262124148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1700497848445945433.post-73490818701028866422012-09-19T13:35:33.032-07:002012-09-19T13:35:33.032-07:00I'm praying for you guys every day, Krista. Gr...I'm praying for you guys every day, Krista. Grief is such a beast, and you are right that there is no time line for when it should end. And yet, others often make us feel as if "it's time to move on", and that makes me angrier than anything. No one knows where you are in your grief, and no one can tell you when you should be "better." It's not something you ever get over, though I do believe we learn how to better manage our sadness and pain as time marches on. And time does help. But as you mentioned, there will always be a hole (or 2 holes rather) that only James and Penelope could fill. And that's ok. And being angry and pissed off and jealous and bitter is ok too. It's ALL ok, b/c it's real, and you have to just let yourself be real and feel what you feel. You are going through the one thing I believe is harder on a woman than anything else in the world. We are not meant to watch our children die. It's supposed to be the other way around. It's horrible. It's unthinkable. And you and Micah have gone through double that in losing not just one, but two precious babies. I am so sorry. I know I don't know your pain and won't pretend to. I just know how much I have struggled even with my 2 miscarriages, and that doesn't even compare to what you are enduring. My losses were early. I never felt or saw my babies, other than on ultrasound. They were real to me, yes, and they were wanted, of course. But it is still different. You held these beautiful children in your arms and then had to say goodbye. And that breaks my heart. I know I'm rambling, and I'm sorry. I just want you to know that everything you are feeling/thinking/doing is normal... if there is a normal, that is. You are a strong woman and you will get to the other side of this immediate grief. But, your love for the twins and your pain at having lost them will be with you forever. I'm sending you lots of hugs and prayers for strength and comfort during this incredibly difficult time.<br /><br />Emily https://www.blogger.com/profile/06166528973767848150noreply@blogger.com